Thank you all. He told me on Monday he was going to apply for "housing". This is not what I expected. He was supposed to go to the Treatment Centre, then the dry house, then a recovery house.
I was so shocked that he was applying for "housing" which I thought would involve him signing a lease and planning on staying there....I stopped communication between us. Then he said what he meant was he was applying for the recovery house! Another misunderstanding.

But when he heard I would not talk to him he went hysterical and had the shakes and couldn't eat and had full blown anxiety and was crying and sick. But the doctors and social workers saw for themselves what happens when he is upset. So as much as I regret another misunderstanding....I was glad they got the full picture.

I am looking forward to finding out what is wrong with him, for his sake and mine. I'll let you know when I find out.

My prayers are that it is something treatable and he will finally find the calm and security and peace he is seeking. I hope his fears will lessen or disappear. I want him to be happy.

But he has to stop being mean and selfish. But I know deep down he is not. It's all protection for him. Layers and layers of emotional reactions to ward off something awful. His dad died of a brain tumor when he was 7 years old and he went into a depression then thinking he was going to die. He had to do a book report for school shortly after on a book about someone who died of a brian tumor, and that really shook him up too. Then his mom died from drinking.

Very few would have reacted as strongly as he did, no matter how dire the situation was. But for him, it screwed him up. He has a learning disorder too, but is very intelligent and well spoken and gentle. He loves to watch documentaries and cooking shows and historical shows on tv. He abhors violence and greed.

He is complicated, but I love him so much that I want to try my damnest to help him and us. We talked today about neutral subjects and it was cute. When things are calm and peaceful for him, he is at his best.

I am going to get involved with the family plan at the treatment centre even though it is far away and I have to take time off work to get there. He had not told them all of his problems so I have filled them in. They will even extend his stay to help him.

I am so grateful to them.

Thanks again....hope you are enjoying the long weekend.

I am enjoying being a full time mom again btw. My daughter finished her first year of college with wonderful grades and is just finishing driving school and now needs to have her wisdom teeth out.
Sound familiar? She is 20, and that's normal for her age. My son is a quiet boy fo 18. He is a very good decent young man. I was married 10 yrs the first time and we didn't have kids. I was married 2 or 3 yrs next time and had two kids. Then I was alone until a few years ago. So, husband/no-kids...then kids/no-husband. I never do things the easy way.

This is too much information....sorry. I am rambling on.

Please let me know if I can be of any help to anyone here. I'd be glad to lend an ear and see what I can do.

hugs all
Brenda