This guy is bad news, from the word GO! I'm guessing he's at least in his 50's. He's been a jerk all his life. Talk about baggage. What is he? A project for you? You trying to save him? At what cost? Your mental and physical health? 'Cause you're enabling, enabling, enabling. There have to be other men in Toronto who would love to be with you, because you appear to be a fascinating woman. Stop wasting your time and energy on this loser. I'm curious to what your kids think. Time to move on girl!