I had surgery last week to do a bladder biopsy. The pathology came back yesterday, and I have stage II bladder cancer. It has already invaded the bladder muscle. I will start chemotherapy soon, then I will have surgery to remove my bladder. I think they gave me a 50/50 chance for survival. I may be absent from here for awhile...until I heal. If I'm not back in here for a long time, y'all should know what happened. Take care all of you, and wish me luck.
If your chemo team is as good as those that took care of my wife you will be in the very best of hands. Incredibly understanding people doing a great job.
I wish you the best !I will miss you and your contributions,especially in the computer section.You have been of much help to me .I look forward to your return to our forums.Sincerely .John
I wish you the best !I will miss you and your contributions,especially in the computer section.You have been of much help to me .I look forward to your return to our forums.Sincerely .John
I'll be thinking of you and I wish you good luck and a speedy recovery and I want to see you back in this forum.
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Good Luck Darren! BTW I have a neighbour who had that op, he says it's very handy on long car trips! Best regards, Richard. Computer Specs here:- http://www.yachtcha.com/Specs.html Website http://www.yachtcha.com Its nice to be important, but its important to be nice
Best of luck, Darren. You are one of the cornerstones around here, we want ya back real soon. I'm sending out a prayer to Whatever Is Out There with your name on it.
Damn, Darren...my wife just got the news that she has breast cancer...we go in to Univ. of Mich. Cancer Center tomorrow, where she will be facing chemo & radiation. Try and stay positive, Darren...easy to say, hard to do...and we are finding that doing distracting things seems to help her. You may be fortunate that they caught it in time...50-50 is much better than 90-10. We will be pulling for you. I will say some old Sioux Indian prayers for you & face the Sun.
So sorry that your wife has received this news. Now a days breast cancer has been controlled somewhat compared to what it used to be. Here's hoping that her doctors can also control it. My best to you and yours with wishes for a speedy recovery.
" Arlene Life is a journey... not a destination. Enjoy the trip!
Dave, such a bummer to have a good friend such as you get such a raw trip. I wish your wife a swift recovery so she can get back to kicking your butt around the house. While she's recouping, be sure to keep things shipshape at home: No dust bunnies in the corners, that kind of thing. It'll be the first thing she notices when she gets back home (with the exception of you, of course )
. Onward & Upward ! Sid
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Devastating news! Keep in mind Darren that they can do more for cancer patients than ever before. Cancer is no longer an automatic death sentence. Keep a positive attitude, it has been proven to help recovery. You have many friends here who will be pulling for you, and you will be in my thoughts.
#27. "RE: I just got some bad news" In response to Darren (Reply # 0) Mon Jan-21-08 10:27 AM by Allyn
Darren, fortunately you don't have Stage III or IV. Sure it would be better to have Stage I or none. But with Stage II you have a much better chance of full recovery and having a normal life (with some inconvenience) than if it had been caught later. And that is what I'm betting on and believing; that you will beat this.
From a cancer survivor to a future survivor, Keep a positive attitude that you will not allow this to beat you. My cancer was in my thyroid gland and was getting ready to spread when I was diagnosed with thyroid cancer. I had surgery and a round of radioactive iodine and I didn't even lose any hair! It has been 7 years for me. Daylilydayzed Daylilies are the Lord's smiles, new one every day.
Thanks everyone for your kind words, encouragement and prayers!
I see my urologist on January 23 for her to explain the surgery in detail, the life-changing outcome and what to expect afterwards. I will then see my oncologist on January 24 for him the pick the best chemotherapy for my situation. I will go through chemo first, then afterwards, have the surgery to remove my cancerous bladder. If all goes well, I'll be facing at least 7 days in the hospital. I think the hospital has some WI-FI hotspots, so I may even bug y'all from there. All of you in this community are my friends, and I appreciate each and every one of you. Take care.
Sad news, Darren. As one who is facing imminent radiation and chemo in the next month, I hope your recovery is complete. My chances are 90% so I have a little rosier picture than you.
#41. "RE: I just got some bad news" In response to Bob H (Reply # 40) Mon Jan-21-08 08:58 PM by mickster
Hang in there Darren! You and Davy's wife will be in our prayers. You're not alone. I know of another of our regulars who had lung cancer and had some lung removed recently.
Keep your chin up Darren. Best of luck with chemo and surgery. I had lung "C" with surgery just over four years ago and have done all right. Best wishes to all who have reported confrontations with this illness.
You're strong, and we're gonna be strong for you. You'll make it but you have to stay optimistic about the situation and don't compare yourself to other people. We love you, and we are gonna help you fight this every way we can. You know to just call if you need ANYTHING, don't be afraid to call us, any day, any time. You're our daddy and this is what we're here for. You took care of us, and now its our time to take care of you! You can use my laptop at the hospital, and when you get home if you want to use it you can..I'll get you a wireless router when income tax comes so you can use my laptop and I will use Billy's. Its no inconvinence whatsoever so don't worry about it. I wanna let you use it, and if you feel up to it, you can use it as long as you need/want to. Sorry I'm writing so much, but you know that I am better at writing than speaking in person. Remember all the letters I used to write you lol. Well I love you, and you KNOW that! BE STRONG, FIGHT, and I LOVE YOU! Chanda
Wow Darren, What a support group from daughters. With them and us things will have to go well for you. God Bless and take care. Remember, you'll sleep thru the whole thing
See Don, Darren has a coupla Georgia peaches also. Hang in there Darren, if I can beat prostate cancer, you can beat yours.You have youth.Plus all of us praying for you.
Please pass my POSITIVE wishes to your wife.Looks like our little family here is having a tough time right now.Lets all keep the upbeat mode moving for all who need it now !!!! Keep us posted as things move on to better days !
Hi All.... just an update on my dad he had the rest of the MUGA cocktail on the 12th the Vinblastine, Adriamycin, and Cisplatin ..We are two days after it now and he is very weak and in pain, (which greives me beyond belief) he is drinking plenty of fluids and eating good ..as far as i know he has not got sick just a lil nauseated more pain and weakness than anything ,He says that this is the worst he has ever felt in his life i just keep praying to god to take his pain away .I keep letting him know that he is strong and can make it through this !!!I kinda feel useless as his daughter not being able to comfort him i want to be able to heal his pain (I know that this will be worth it when the cancer is gone)! But this is hard haveing the strongest person I've ever known go through this.Continue to keep him lifted up in prayers because we all know he needs it for strength (you guys just don't know how much you mean to him at this forum) he takes all the kind words & support yall give him here and it really helps him .When he first posted here the sucess stories and kind words really helped him cope he was telling all of us kids about it and seemed to have more hope than he had had. So From the bottom of my heart THANKS & LOVE YOU GUYS!!!!!
The road ahead is tough but he will win the fight!!!
Your Dad...Darren...is one of our finest members, in my opinion. I feel that he will come through his cancer & become a survivor. That's what he is, Kayle...a survivor...and even though he is in a lot of pain, I think you will find that he will overcome it. Don't get down...(he will know if you do)...just be strong, and let him see and feel your strength and it will help him stay strong. I know it must hurt you to see him in so much pain, but it won't last forever, Kayle...and he will. He will make it through...
Hi Kayle you are far from being useless , trust me . You are a big comfort to your father , just by being there for him . Can't take away the pain and suffering , but that too shall pass and there is no other way but fight. Godspeed Darren :bighug: Jane
Our friend Denbeau is in the hospital now after having two surgeries for colon cancer. He's supposed to be released tomorrow and the prognosis appears to be very good if I'm reading his wife's email correctly. They had to go back in to clean up a hole from the first but things are in good shape according to Dennis and his wife.
Darren, I wish you a speedy recovery. It's amazing what can be done these days in the medical profession. Just look at Shelly, they fixed his old peepers with no prob. We'll be thinking of our old buddy, Darren, and looking forward to your return.
. Onward & Upward ! Sid
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I got some good news today. I saw my Oncologist and he said my cancer was caught at an early stage. With three rounds of chemotherapy, then the removal of my bladder, I will have near a 100% chance of being cured of cancer. He said there are two types of Chemo; the "normal" type and the "spicy" type. I will be getting the "spicy" type. He said I will get sick and loose my hair from the strong chemo. I go 29th of January to have a heart test because one of the chemicals can be really bad on the heart muscle. On the 30th I go to the hospital to have a "port" inserted into my upper arm. Finally on the 31st of January, I see the Oncologist to start my chemo. I will have a treatment every three weeks, and a total of three treatments. Afterwards, I will have the Radical Cystectomy. Thanks for all your thoughts and prayers! I will keep you posted.
Glad to hear the news. Now look at the money you will save on haircuts, I quit going to barber shop 1 1/2 years ago. Now I keep it shaved, and spend the money on computer parts.
#70. "RE: I just got some bad news" In response to Darren (Reply # 61) Fri Jan-25-08 04:11 PM by Sid
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QUOTE: Afterwards, I will have the Radical Cystectomy. Thanks for all your thoughts and prayers! I will keep you posted.
Good for you, Dude! Won't be long you'll be back to your normal routine. And, thanx for the very interesting link. Just as I said, amazing procedures.
An old friend took an anti-tank round in the pelvis during his tour in Nam (U.S. Marines). He had only a sliver of bladder material left along with a ton of other problems. The bladder is the only organ in the human body capable of rebuilding itself. In time, his bladder returned to its "normal" state. That guy is the heaviest beer guzzler I've ever known---surely evidence that his bladder must be a real tank.
As will the rest of the PCQ&A community, I'll be looking forward to your progress reports in the coming weeks. Good luck, my cyber friend.
. Onward & Upward ! Sid
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I had my Port implanted today. I was awake during the procedure, but with the drugs they gave me, I didn't give a damn what they did to me. I felt nothing except the first couple of sticks for the lidocaine. It took about 30 minutes. I see my Oncologist tomorrow to find out when my first chemo treatment starts. I just thought I'd keep y'all updated.
#75. "RE: I just got some bad news" In response to Darren (Reply # 74) Wed Jan-30-08 05:57 PM by Ethan
Keep your spirits. We should put that picture of you into the next montage..
Ethan
get better dude
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Just be sure to keep the area around the injection port very clean so it does not get infected. My son had to do peritoneal dialysis before he got his kidney transplant and he had to keep his dialysis port very very clean to lesessen the chance of an infection starting there. Daylilydayzed Daylilies are the Lord's smiles, new one every day.
I love you, and just remember the bible verse I gave to you...thats written on my arm for you to look at and remember "I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me"
Keep us posted please !Thank you !!I hope all is going well.Chemo is tough to handle and can be discouraging but it can work.Pass on our best wishes and encouragement !
I am praying for you every night that you will beat this. Stay positive and things will be better than the doctors predict. Keep that chin way up! Daylilydayzed Daylilies are the Lord's smiles, new one every day.
Thanks for all your thoughts and prayers. I had my first chemo today. They infused a bag of Zofran for nausea first, then the chemo drug itself (Methotrexate). It took about an hour. So far, I haven't experienced any side effects. I've drank about 7 bottles of water today. Tomorrow, I will get the three remaining drugs from the "MVAC" cocktail (Vinblastine, Adriamycin and Cisplatin). That's the really "spicy" mixture and will take about six hours. They say I will be really weak and nauseous. I'm claiming I WONT be. We'll see. I skip a week after that, then start all over. I don't know how many cycles yet.
My wife dodged the Chemo bullet, Darren...biopsy was sent to a lab out in Calif. who diagnosed it "low", meaning Chemo wasn't necessary, but Radiation was. She is taking treatments right now at the University of Michigan Cancer Center. Treatments are five days a week, for 6 weeks. We are very optimistic about things. Hang in there, Darren...
Davy, I am praying for your wife also, that she will beat this disease. As a cancer survivor (thyroid cancer at age 43), I can provide proof that a positive attitude makes for a great recovery! Daylilydayzed Daylilies are the Lord's smiles, new one every day.
Keep your chin up Darren, we are still praying for you. I will keep you in my prayers every night. You have such loving daughters , you have to get well so you can walk them down the aisle at their weddings. Happy Valentines Day Darren, here is Sea Urchin , a daylily I grow. Daylilydayzed Daylilies are the Lord's smiles, new one every day.
June 2, 2008 Daddy had the surgery to remove his bladder, amongst some other things, and when they got in there they saw that indeed the cancer was NOT contained inside the bladder and had spread out like a sheet behind his bowels. They removed all they could without running into major veins and arteries. He was in a lot of pain for about 3 hrs on June 4, 2008 after they removed his epidural. Only GOD can change things now. Once he's better after surgery and healed they are talking about more chemotherapy and adding radiation this time, we'll have to see what daddy's decision is. Thanks to everyone here for their prayers, but the journey isn't near over yet. Please continue to pray.
I am sorry to hear that things did not go as well as we all hoped.Try to keep your spirits up,and help to keep him comfortable.Above all respect his decisions at this time in his life.I sincerly hope the news gets better .Love and attention are very important at a time like this and I am sure he will get a lot from you..Be sure he knows that he is missed here and that we are all pulling for him !!Sincerely ,John
As of March 3, 2008 the first cycle of the chemo is completed. Daddy will have 2 more cycles, and the 2nd cycle starts on March 10. March 11th will be the "D-Day" as they call it. The one that makes him weak, sick, and feel like he is dying, so keep him in your prayers especially on that day and for about a week to follow. After "D-Day" he'll have 2 more days of chemo and Cycle 2 will be over. Then that means 1 more full cycle then he gets his bladder removed and he'll be HEALED!! YAY!!
Thanks everyone for your prayers and thoughts, and continue to pray. Its GREATLY appreciated, believe me
Prayers still continuing for your dad. Pleas tell your dad that positive frame of mind really helps with healing faster. Daylilydayzed Daylilies are the Lord's smiles, new one every day.
As of March 3, 2008 the first cycle of the chemo is completed. Daddy will have 2 more cycles, and the 2nd cycle starts on March 10. March 11th will be the "D-Day" as they call it. The one that makes him weak, sick, and feel like he is dying, so keep him in your prayers especially on that day and for about a week to follow. After "D-Day" he'll have 2 more days of chemo and Cycle 2 will be over. Then that means 1 more full cycle then he gets his bladder removed and he'll be HEALED!! YAY!!
Thanks everyone for your prayers and thoughts, and continue to pray. Its GREATLY appreciated, believe me
Sincerely,
Thank you for the update, Chanda.
Hang in there Darren......My thoughts and prayers are with ya buddy.
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March 11th was a long, rough day for daddy. He's still feeling the weakness and he said his bones are hurting it feels like. He's still doing pretty damned good though, if you ask me. He's being very strong.
Thanks for all the prayers and strong words. There's like 5 or 6 more treatments then its the surgery. He's dreading the surgery he says, just keep praying.
Thanks again. I'll keep things updated since he's not feeling well enough to do it.
Daddy is in the hospital with pneumonia. He went in Saturday, June 14, 2008. He's not doing that great today, but they are supposed to be starting breathing treatments here pretty soon. Hopefully they hurry up or someone(me) is gonna have to get on their butts.
Thanks to everyone for the prayers, we still have a long road ahead. Keep praying.
This thread is now so unwieldy (difficult to follow) that I would like to see a new, up-to-date, "Darren" thread. Can you gurus make that happen? Maybe it could link to this one if one wanted to back up to earlier events.
Darren, we're missing your input on all and sundry. Get back over here asap so's you can set our arses straight!
. Onward & Upward ! Sid
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Darren, my wife just finished her Radiation treatments for breast cancer yesterday. She got burned on her left side, neck, shoulder, breast, chest...at UofM Cancer Center they said it was an unusually bad burn... but she's done & recuperating. Thanks to all for care and concern...and hang in, Darren...think positive.
#107. "RE: I just got some bad news" In response to Darren (Reply # 0) Thu Mar-27-08 07:08 PM by rheadabovewater
Darren, so sorry to hear the news - I know how upsetting it is.
Keep in mind that they are doing wonders with chemo and radiation these days. There is an article from Time magazine dated 4/9/07 (you can write to me at robtakendall@yahoo.com and I'll send you a scan) called "Living With Cancer" about Elizabeth Edwards, and how much progress we've made in the fight against cancer. Oncologists are excited to be oncologists, because drug companies are coming out with new cancer drugs all the time - if one drug doesn't work, they switch you to another.
I was diagnosed with breast cancer last year, so I know where you're coming from. I was Stage I, and I'm doing fine; Stage II is better than a later stage. People are living with metastases for years instead of months; a few women in my bc group have had metastatic cancer for ten years, and they still look and feel fine. Seriously.
Please don't be too discouraged. Join a support group, that helps a lot. Let us know how you are doing - and don't hesitate to email me if you want a copy of that article. Roberta
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The latest news (June 4th) is very disappointing, Darren. Damn! I wish there were something that I could do to help other than hoping for the best for you.
. Onward & Upward ! Sid
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Daddy is going home(to his parents, my grandparents)today or tomorrow. Not completely sure of which, but I'll definitely tell him that you all have him in your thoughts and prayers. Yesterday was a good day for him. He was up and walking around the hospital(they asked him to walk) and eating a little(cant eat much due to the extensive surgery). I believe with all my heart that he is gonna be healed of this and that he will live a much longer, happy life. He's still gotta see those grandkids grow up (hehe)! I'll keep yall posted as I hear more.
Who knows, he may be back on here letting yall know a little more than what I know once he gets home
#131. "RE: I just got some bad news" In response to Sid (Reply # 128)
and me too. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Enjoy life while you can, don't try when you can't 'cos you won't, then it will be too late.
What Jan said and more , Darren . Godspeed !be strong and fight !!! I have a special prayer that I say , for anyone in need . It's been yours for many weeks ! :bighug:
#133. "RE: I just got some bad news" In response to Darren (Reply # 0) Sun Jun-08-08 03:29 AM by jmc
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QUOTE: I had surgery last week to do a bladder biopsy. The pathology came back yesterday, and I have stage II bladder cancer. It has already invaded the bladder muscle. I will start chemotherapy soon, then I will have surgery to remove my bladder. I think they gave me a 50/50 chance for survival. I may be absent from here for awhile...until I heal. If I'm not back in here for a long time, y'all should know what happened. Take care all of you, and wish me luck.
This is a good example why I am here so often. This place is very unique in all the places on the Web. There is so much love and positive energy here.
I am doubling up on my prayers for your healing Darren. Remember to laugh to beat this, staying positive will make it easier to beat. Daylilydayzed Daylilies are the Lord's smiles, new one every day.
QUOTE: I had surgery last week to do a bladder biopsy. The pathology came back yesterday, and I have stage II bladder cancer. It has already invaded the bladder muscle. I will start chemotherapy soon, then I will have surgery to remove my bladder. I think they gave me a 50/50 chance for survival. I may be absent from here for awhile...until I heal. If I'm not back in here for a long time, y'all should know what happened. Take care all of you, and wish me luck.
#144. "RE: I just got some bad news" In response to jmc (Reply # 143)
Update
well sorry it took so long for this but its been a long journey after surgery to remove his bladder my dad went through 2 more rounds of chemo and finished sept 24th he seemed to be gettin strength back and had been deemed in remission .2 weeks after comepleteing chemo he started uncontrollably vomiting so we thought he had got the stomache virus he went all day and on into the night so we called 911 he ended up being admited to the hospital where we found out through scans a tumor had grown pressing on his doedenum, makeing him unable to process food. the tumor that is pressing on his duodenum was the cancer that originated in his bladder that had spread .well they wanted to do an operation to make him able to eat normal foods so he could get strenghth and do more chemo and also some radiation but he was to weak to reroute his intestines to the stomach so they installed a stomach compression tube and a feeding tube . he can no longer eat by mouth only drink liquids but his stomach tube sucks it right out into another bag to keep it from building up . he has his feeding tube which we feed him ensure plus (his only form of nutrition)it goes right into his intestines to hopefully give him good nutrition.he went home and two weeks laterhe ended up in the hospital again he got sooooo dehydrated we have to give him water in his intestines with his food and he didn't get enough in him to keep him hydrated which we all do with pride bc we love him and want to take care of him).he received fluids and is home now and came home with hospice care to help us and him (he wants to stay at home)monday of this week he ended up in the hospice center bc his nurse was concerned bc we havent been able to keep his bowels going like they should so they took him to the inpatient facily to work that out and to manage his pain meds bc his dosage is no longer effective so there monitoring him as they up the dosage .he called yesterday and informed me that his food isnt setteling anymore its giving him exstreme colic and makeing him so sick so they had to stop it he was contantly vomiting untill they did so they are trying other kinds of tube foods which there isnt that many choices but the doc said he isnt giving up on him hes gonna find something that will agree with him he needs this nutrition desperately.i still have a glimmer of hope that he can get strong do the rerouting of his intestines and do radiation and chemo but if he chooses not to then its his choice and ill be there for him the cancer had not only spread in his abdomen but also he has traces in his bones also a peanut size in his lungs. the docs want him to keep fighting but he says he is too weak and too tierd to fight anymore well all I can say from here is when you pray pray for my family and I this is very hard on all of us love you guys ill be in touch asap
Thanks for all the kind words my brother was with him today and said they are still haveing problems getting the food in him they started the gravity pump and he felt like he was going to vomit so they again had to shut it down in hopes that he wont get sick so he can absorb the vitamins but other than that he said my dad isnt in so much pain today and his bowels are moveing as they should so thats good im going to spend the night with him saturday cant wait if i had a choice id never leave his side but i cherish every moment im with him
Prayers going out right now that Darren will beat this. Prayers for the family are being said right now. I have both covered with prayers now Daylilydayzed Daylilies are the Lord's smiles, new one every day.
I am truly sorry to hear the bad news.Be sure to let him know that all of us are praying for him and miss him here on the forum.You, the family ,are in my prayers as well.Be strong and upbeat for him !!
I Will Tell Him You All Miss Him And Tell Him You All Gives Him Best Wishes .Im Sure It Will Lift His Spirits He Said The Dther Day He Misses Just Being Able To Get On His Computer With A Cup Of Coffee He Loves All You And Loves This Place Kayle'
Just Being Able To Get On His Computer With A Cup Of Coffee He Loves All You And Loves This Place Kayle'
Kayle, your have brought tears to my eyes. We are certainly missing his wonderful input here. I can't tell you how many times he has straightened me out with his vast knowledge and generous sharing.
. Onward & Upward ! Sid
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#172. "RE: I just got some bad news" In response to Sid (Reply # 171)
Sorry Sid I Know He Always Helped Me Also He Is A Very Intelligent Person! Latest Update Is Even Worse He Continously Had Problems With His Feeding Tube Just Pure Agony Everytime He Tried To Let Us Feed Him They Tried two types of tube feedings possible and nothing agreed with his body so he chose not to be tube fed anymore nor take anymore iv liquids bc they have such a hard time finding a vein they burnt almost all his veins out in his arms useing phenogan when he was so sick so therefore he doesnt want to get constantly poked anymore so he said he wanted to be kept comfortable and the hospice center is doing just that he said he is so tierd ....they gave him a couple weeks maybe more maybe less i dont know what to do im crushed but its his body and he knows whats best.We asked the docs if he will be inmore pain than he already is from no liquids or food and they said its actually the natural way to go.When you die of old age you get to where you dont want drink or food and your organs slowly shut down,which is what they say will happen to him.The hospice nurses let him know at anytime he can change his mind and they will start iv fluids and food up again.
#173. "RE: I just got some bad news" In response to goblinshimmer (Reply # 172) Thu Nov-13-08 07:58 PM by DavyWavy
Damn, damn, damn!!! God, I hate to hear that news. We were all so sure Darren would make it, but it sounds now as if he's ready to hit the delete button. Can't say I blame him, judging from all the info you have given us. Tell him we love him, please...also, tell him a lot of us will probably join him shortly...it's good that he's going to do the code for us...God bless...
I think he has made the right decision. There comes a point when conditions dictate the pain of living outweighs the value of continuing a diminished quality of life. I hope when my time comes I can have the courage that he has shown.
I agree he has suffered enough and I respect his discision.I Don't want to lose him but everyone has an appointed time to go this has shown me how quick death can just take a person down. I'm takeing the grandbabies to see him saturday bc he wants to see them and ill tell him you all are thinking of him and send best wishes Kayle'
#179. "RE: I just got some bad news" In response to ablib (Reply # 178) Thu Nov-13-08 11:58 PM by General_K
Kayle and Chanda,
Please let your dad know we're all thinking of him here. It's so hard to believe that he won't be coming back here, but I can respect his right to cease treatments. He must be suffering greatly to make such a courageous decision.
I know this must be very difficult for you and Chanda.
yes i have a laptop but no wifi at the facility that i know of ill take it with me saturday and ask the nurses seems like there would be but not sure i will try my best to show him his thread
well i guess there is always hope but without him takeing iv liquids or food there isnt of course and yes he has had exstreme pain and suffering I Sure am letting him know how much he means to you guys and I will continue to also Kayle'
Check your e-mail. I've sent two PDFs (one with images, one without) of this thread. Hopefully, that will assist you in showing Darren some of the comments here without wireless access.
QUOTE: I think he has made the right decision. There comes a point when conditions dictate the pain of living outweighs the value of continuing a diminished quality of life. I hope when my time comes I can have the courage that he has shown.
Well stated, Shelly. I agree, 100%. Darren is very lucky to have loved ones who respect his wishes and don't selfishly try any and everything to prolong his life, thereby, prolonging his intense agony.
. Onward & Upward ! Sid
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I was really shocked and saddened to hear this. As ablib said, he's been a staple of PCQandA for quite some time. When we moved from PC911 to PCQandA, he was the one who submitted the winning logo design. Please let him know that all of his extended PCQandA family misses him and that he (as well as you and your family) is in our prayers.
As for showing him the thread, you could print it to PDF and then show him that. As is, the thread is 96 pages long. Using this URL will give you a printer-friendly copy that is 32 pages long. Blocking images on that page before you print reduces it to 8 pages. If you want, I can make a PDF of the page (with or without images) and e-mail it to you. Send me an e-mail at jason@pcqanda.com to let me know.
Words can not express my sorrow.I hope I have the same courage when I am faced with the decision.Be sure he understands how much his contributions were appreciated !Sincerely John
Damn! So sorry for our good buddy, Darren, and his loving and devoted family. E-mail problems last week caused me to miss your disturbing update. Just got it straightened out. If only your problems were so minor. My thoughts and hopes are with you all.
. Onward & Upward ! Sid
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Darren...I just came across this thread update...I am so sorry to hear your news from Kayle. My sister-in-law was just operated on for stomach cancer...had lots of little tumors...the operation lasted 11 hours! She went through chemo for awhile after that...and the doctor says she's doing fine. She's out shopping...drving her car, going to have her nails done. Looks like she's going to make it.
We are all hoping you do, too, Darren...your glass is half full (50-50) don't give up, man.
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Enjoy life while you can, don't try when you can't 'cos you won't, then it will be too late.
Hadn't heard or read anything in a while. How is everyone holding up?
______________ From: ♥Kayle'♥ Date: Nov 22, 2008 11:25 AM
yup i havent posted in pcq&a too been sick n also just tierd . well docs came in and said what ever he is chewing on and eating on its makeing its way past the tumor and giving him nutrients bc its makeing him survive lol the doc said anyone else wouldnt be sustained without proper food hes been eating alot of stuff like pomagranets peanutbutter oranges grapefruit n spiting it out just takeing juice from stuff of chewing very fine but the doc said he is being sustained from it told him to keep beleiveing for his miracle lol so i am
______________ From: W@KK0 Date: Nov 22, 2008 2:36 PM
That is awesome to hear You know why they call it a Medical Practice right? Cause the docs still don't have it right and have to practice, practice, practice to get it right
I'm glad he's getting nutrients. Sounds like he's not ready to really quit just yet
Do you want me to post this tidbit on the pcqanda forums?
______________ From: ♥Kayle'♥ yes plzzzzzz for me thanks
I Just wanted all to know my father passed away last night at 7:55 pm all of us were there as he took his last breath telling him we loved him and its ok . he took a turn for the worst we all got the call thanksgiving day and shot up there as soon as we could we never left his side i tell you what this is so hard but i know he isnt suffering anymore
Billy Darren Floyd March 8th 1961 - December 2nd 2008
Oh no, I'm so sorry to hear this. My condolences to you and the rest of the family. I suppose there was nothing else to be done, and now his suffering has ended.
Seconded. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Enjoy life while you can, don't try when you can't 'cos you won't, then it will be too late.
It is wonderful that Darren is no longer suffering. What a relief it must be for him, and, you and his other loved ones. This news was the "falling of the second shoe". The first was the announcement of the cancer and its intensity. Darren was one ultra-cool dude. His knowledge and humanity will be missed in this household. That's for sure.
. Onward & Upward ! Sid
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Darrin will certainly be missed by many around here....
"I have learned never to underestimate the healing power we all have. It is always there to be used for the highest good."
May you and your family find comfort in the memories that are yours to cherish always and strength in the companionship of those that also share your loss.
My heart goes out to you and your family. *hugs*
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"A woman's heart is an ocean of secrets." Rose Dawson; from the movie "Titanic"
#206. "RE: I just got some bad news" In response to goblinshimmer (Reply # 193) Thu Dec-04-08 07:58 AM by DavyWavy
Sorry to hear the sad news, Kayle. As you know, Darren meant a lot to all of us here at PCQ&A...he will be missed by everyone here...and I will miss him so much, personally. I have known Darren these past years and he has helped me so much...I will never sit down at this computer without thinking about him...and remembering him...God bless his soul.
I just read the obit...didn't realize Darren was so young...47 years old!!!
So sorry to hear Although I didn't know Darren well,over the years I could tell he was one of the good guys. My condolences to you and the rest of the family.
I am so sorry to hear about your father's death, and I am sorry for your loss. He's been an important part of this forum for a long time. We will all miss him.
I wish I had noticed this thread earlier, but I am battling my own cancer monster and do not spend as much time online as I used to.
QUOTE:... we loved him and its ok ... he isnt suffering anymore
Billy Darren Floyd March 8th 1961 - December 2nd 2008
My sincerest condolences.
Online forums are not, as some might suggest, impersonal places. Relationships forged here and in similar online environments have an obvious impact on the personal lives of participants. Just read this whole thread if you doubt this.
The cyber-social dynamic may be as new as the Internet, but that doesn't make it any less valid. I've not been a regular for a while, but this still hurts.
I am sorry to hear that. Keep in mind that one is never truly gone as long as they live in the memories of those left behind. Looking at all the posts one can rest assured that he will be remembered.
My sympathy to you and your family on Darren's passing. He is at peace and pain free now.
Life's journey is not to arrive at the grave safely in a well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, totally worn out, shouting '...holy shit ...what a ride!'
What can I say, that has not already been so eloquently expressed by our Members, except to extend my heartfelt condolences to you and your family. "When we lose someone we love, it seems that time stands still".
Guns don't kill people. Husbands who come home early kill people.
I am so sorry to hear about this. Darren was always quick to help me and so many others. He was always glad to share his research and opinions. We will miss him here. Thank you for letting us know.
Sorry for your loss. Online "life" isn't real, but I think a testimony to someone's spirit can be found here in these pages -- a lot of people felt your Dad was a good guy and it's like losing a star from the sky.
QUOTE: I Just wanted all to know my father passed away last night at 7:55 pm all of us were there as he took his last breath telling him we loved him and its ok . he took a turn for the worst we all got the call thanksgiving day and shot up there as soon as we could we never left his side i tell you what this is so hard but i know he isnt suffering anymore
Billy Darren Floyd March 8th 1961 - December 2nd 2008
I am sorry to hear about this. I hadnt been to the forum here in a while and just came on the other day to discover this. Darren will be missed here,. God Bless you and your family.
My Sincere Condolences, Darren was a great help to us all over many years. RIP. Sincerely, Richard. Computer Specs here:- http://www.yachtcha.com/Specs.html Website http://www.yachtcha.com Its nice to be important, but its important to be nice
You will be greatly missed!!!!!! I was shocked to see this post and now it's too late. Darren helped me so much, I really looked up to him and his great knowledge of computing. My prayers are with his family. God bless and may Darren RIP.
I didn't really know Darren as he was mainly before my time here - but I have experienced the hurt and also the relief that a persons suffering has ended.
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(I know that this will be worth it when the cancer is gone)! But this is hard haveing the strongest person I've ever known go through this.Continue to keep him lifted up in prayers because we all know he needs it for strength (you guys just don't know how much you mean to him at this forum) he takes all the kind words & support yall give him here and it really helps him .When he first posted here the sucess stories and kind words really helped him cope he was telling all of us kids about it and seemed to have more hope than he had had. So From the bottom of my heart THANKS & LOVE YOU GUYS!!!!! 
