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My experience with those types of people is this:
1. They never learn until it's too late. They'll take a beating from a boyfriend or husband, and keep on justifying it to themselves and everyone else, until they end up dead or disabled.
2. The comment about her being on welfare or public assistance or whatever, and the fact that she is proud of it, that kind of boggles my mind. While there is certainly no shame in such programs, the concept of being proud of a crappy financial situation just doesn't make sense. This sort of leads me to believe that she was raised "in the system" herself.
3. Regardless of what you say, do, or hope for, the decision to leave an abusive spouse or partner is the sole responsibility of the victim.
What I am concerned about is the whole abuse thing. If you think she is being abused by this guy, doesn't it seem at the very least a likely scenario in which he would also at one point (if he already isn't) beat the child?
Adults that get beat up fall into two groups: The Dumb and the Dumber. If you are Dumb, you allow the person to gain a psychological, monetary, or physical advantage over you, and thus feel that the situation will only get worse if you attempt to leave. If you are Dumber, you don't even have the common sense to recognize the above, and go on through life blissfully unaware that the reason your friends are so different is because THEY don't get the crap kicked out of them every night.
If you witness the person being abused, you have a legal right (and probably a legal obligation) to defend that person by whatever means you can. This could mean calling the police, letting her stay with you, finding her a place to stay, or shooting the boyfriend.
So where do you live? I'm thinking of moving in right next to you and seeing just how much I can get away with around your "passive aggressive" husband.
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